Rejection Sucks! How to Keep Writing in Spite of It
Rejection is an unavoidable part of working in Hollywood. It doesn’t matter if you’re a successful writer, actor, producer, or director you’ll probably hear a dozen or more “NO’s” for every one “YES”. That being said, just because we know rejection is part of the process, doesn’t make it easy.
As a writer you’re not just receiving “NO’s” on job opportunities, you’re getting “NO’s” on scripts you probably poured your heart and soul into. Which can make a “NO” feel more like a punch in the gut than just a career set back.
Here are 5 tips to help you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back in the saddle after yet another “NO”.
1. Step away from the computer
Let’s say you’re anxiously waiting for a, ‘yay or nay’ on your latest script and when your inbox finally pings it’s a pass. Now what? In my opinion, start by stepping away from your computer for a beat. Go for a short walk, get a coffee, or call a sympathetic friend. Whatever you need to do to avoid an emotion-fueled response to said, “NO” that you might regret. Once you’ve had a good cry, punched a pillow, emotionally ate a pack of cookies, bought a new pair of shoes, or all of the above, move on to —
2. What kind of a “NO” is it?
Sometimes a “NO” doesn’t mean they don’t love your work. After the initial shock of rejection, re-read their email. Did they say they love your voice as a writer, but just didn’t connect to this idea? Did they say your script is fantastic but isn’t the type of project they’re looking for right now? If they genuinely seem to love your writing, you could ask to be considered for future in-house writing assignments. If they love this script but it doesn’t fit with their current slate you could ask to pitch them a new idea that WOULD be in-line with what they’re looking for (if you actually have a new idea worth pitching). Finally, leave the door open by asking if you can submit future work directly to them. If your writing is good, the answer will almost always be, “YES.”
3. Take the high road
Above all, thank them for their time. Can you imagine how many rejections executives and reps give out every day? It can’t be fun. Being gracious about a “NO” helps set you apart from the crowd.
4. Have a rejection game plan
No one wants to be rejected. But if you have a game plan for how to handle the news, it can make the sting less painful. Once you’ve finished corresponding, go for a long run, crack open a White Claw, or talk to a friend or family member who “gets it”. Come up with your version of licking your wounds and honor all of your anger, disappointment, and frustration. That way you can wake up the next day with no lingering resentment (or at least a lot less) and get back to writing. Dwelling on the “NO” is only going to distract you from writing your next great “YES”.
5. If at first you don’t succeed…
Breaking Bad, arguably one of the most groundbreaking shows ever, was passed on by countless networks (including HBO) before AMC picked it up. The same is true for Mad Men. Imagine if the creators of these shows gave up after one “NO”? If your script gets rejected it doesn’t necessarily mean you don't have the talent or a great script. But it does mean you have to try again and maybe find a new way in. “NO’s” are inevitable in love and writing, never let a negative response ruin your passion and your dream. Take the lessons that a “NO” gives you and apply them to your future success.
What helps you feel inspired again after a hard “NO”? Let me know @CaroleKirsch!